Hannah and Ali
have made a lot of financial sacrifices for their family, especially for Aaron.
The Shakurs decide that it is best for Aaron to be admitted into the public
school system. They have both agreed that they want him to receive the
specialized help he needs, but he should get used to being able to adapt on his
own and socialize with others his age. After doing some research on the area,
they realize that their best choice of school district would be moving out of
the city and into the suburbs surrounding Chicago. Kayla and Amir, yet again,
have to make a sacrifice for their younger brother, leaving their school
friends behind and having to start over--Even though this is not the worst
thing for them. Over time, they were starting to become more ridiculed for
having a brother with special needs by others in school who knew them. This was
a way for the family to have a fresher start and hopefully better life for them
all.
The new school
district has a very successful program for students with special needs. They
have learned much about it from touring the school as well as listening to
reviews from families they have met over the last several years who have
children with special needs as well. The Shakurs are very excited for the
chance for Aaron to start receiving a normal education.
They move out of
their home in the city and move out into the suburbs where they have found a
small house to rent for $1500 a month. Ali transferred fire departments and is
back to his full physical abilities. He works full time there making about
$3,500 a month. With the money they receive from selling their house, they have
a safe cushion for the time being. They now live about an hour from Ali’s
family but they take the time to come visit on the weekends still so that
Hannah and Ali can have time to themselves away from their children.
Moving is very
disorienting for young children. Kayla and Amir were not prepared for moving
all of their things and packing it away as well as helping Aaron to move. It
was a lot of work and took a lot of energy from them. Being in the new house
was not easy for either of them. For Aaron, being in the new house during the
day he would throw uncontrollable tantrums and would act like what Ali had come
to acknowledge as “Tasmanian devil spasms” since he would destroy everything in
his path, such as: throwing, hitting, crushing, stomping, biting, screaming,
jumping, etc. At night Aaron would often wake up screaming from night terrors
and it would take an hour or so to soothe him so that he could sleep again. He
would sometimes cry for Susan, his former therapist, since he had not seen her
in several weeks. For the several years that she had worked with him, he had
grown a very strong attachment to her familiarity.
Ali and Hannah
were dealing with Aaron and his disoriented issues, but it began causing
tension between Ali and Hannah. Ali would accuse Hannah of babying him and
Hannah would accuse ALl that he is ignoring the children completely. Ali
believes that since he works all day he should not have to come home and be a
babysitter, and that is what Hannah feels like she is doing all the time. Ultimately,
the stresses of moving have gotten to the Shakur’s for the moment.
Hannah and Ali
spoke with the school about creating a new program for Aaron but until they can
see his performance. Days pass and they cannot clearly assess what he will need
to succeed in school. Aaron has full control of his motor functions and bodily
functions now and has no issues identifying the things he needs or wants by
pointing or short, broken phrases. He has learned some numbers from practicing
how many of things to ask for that he wants, but cannot identify colors,
shapes, or letters like other children his age. He still cannot count past 8.
Once beginning
school, Kayla and Amir are not doing well. Their grades are slipping from what
they were the previous year. The kid’s current school counselor is attributing
their poor grades and socialization due to all the changes in their life from
the move, from attending school with their younger brother, and their cultural
background. Kayla and Amir refute the fact that they are related to Aaron to
avoid being bullied again. They sometimes join in the ridicule so that others
will not make fun of them.
Aaron does not settle in well with the
school for the first few weeks. He does not like the new environment or the
large number of people he is always around. He often will cry for his mother,
Hannah, who has stayed at home with him for these last few years and is no
longer available to him throughout the day. He has started to become aggressive
to other students in the room and will scratch, growl/hiss, and hit at his
fellow students. They have noticed that Aaron will react like this when he gets
on the bus and until the first couple hours of school.
Questions:
1. What are some services that
could benefit Amir, Kayla, and Aaron could become involved in to help their
transitions and how would they differ and affect the family as a whole?
2. What are beneficial ways that Ali and
Hannah could deal with Aaron? What is recommended for helping autistic
children with low IQ levels and the ways he is acting?
3. What type(s) of care is
normal/popular for autistic or disabled children in Middle Eastern culture?
Decision Point: Do Ali and Hannah seek help for their spiraling marriage and seek help in dealing with the issues of their children as well? How could they do that cost effectively since they currently have a tight budget?
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Heller, P. K. (2012). Moving and Young
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